LOVE AFTER R TRAUma
Break free from past wounds & habits and create the loving, secure relationship you deserve
You deserve love that feels right
Picture waking up without that familiar knot in your stomach when you think about love. Picture yourself on a date, actually present and enjoying the conversation instead of scanning for red flags or waiting for the other shoe to drop.
You're texting someone you're interested in, and when they don't respond immediately, you don't spiral into anxiety or create elaborate stories about what it means. You simply trust that they'll respond when they can.
When conflict arises - because it will in any real relationship - you don't shut down or explode. Instead, you stay centered, communicate your needs clearly, and work through it together like adults who care about each other.
You know your worth now. You can spot the difference between someone who's genuinely interested and someone who's just playing games. You no longer mistake intensity for intimacy or chaos for passion.
This is what's possible when you heal the wounds that have been driving your relationship patterns.
Does this sound like you?
1. You've been betrayed or witnessed infidelity
You feel like you're constantly bracing for impact, waiting for the other shoe to drop. There's a heaviness in your chest when you start to care about someone - excitement mixed with dread. You feel like a detective in your own relationship, constantly scanning for evidence of betrayal. Your heart races when they're late coming home or their phone buzzes. You feel exhausted from analyzing every word, every action, looking for signs of betrayal. Part of you wants to believe this time will be different, but a louder voice whispers "don't be naive." Trust feels like a luxury you can't afford, and there's a constant knot in your stomach that only loosens when you have "proof" they're faithful.
2. You experienced abuse or trauma
You feel like your body and heart are fortresses under siege. Intimacy feels terrifying - like removing armor in a battlefield. You feel fragmented, like parts of you are still trapped in those moments of harm. Your nervous system feels hijacked, reacting to present safety as if it's past danger. You feel rage and grief that your capacity for trust was stolen from you. You feel like your compass is broken - you can't tell the difference between passion and chaos, love and obsession. You feel ashamed that you stayed, angry that you left, confused about what love actually is.
3. You grew up in an unstable or emotionally unavailable home
You feel like you're walking on eggshells even in calm moments, because peace feels temporary and dangerous. When things are going well, you feel anxious rather than happy - like you're waiting for the chaos to return. You feel like you're performing in a play where you don't know your lines. Love feels conditional and earned rather than given freely. You feel like you're always auditioning for love, trying to earn what should be freely given. You feel most attracted to people who are just out of reach because that feels like "real" love to you. There's a deep loneliness that comes from never feeling truly seen or accepted for who you are.
4. You have anxious attachment and abandonment fears
You feel like you're drowning when someone pulls away, even slightly. Your chest tightens with panic at unanswered texts or cancelled plans. You feel like you're living with a smoke detector that goes off at the slightest hint of danger. Every interaction gets dissected for hidden meaning. You feel pathetic for how much you need reassurance, but you can't stop yourself from seeking it. You alternate between clinging desperately and pushing away to avoid the inevitable abandonment you're certain is coming. Your mind races with worst-case scenarios, and you can't seem to quiet the chatter.
5. You're drawn to unavailable men and push away good ones
You feel most alive when you're chasing someone who's just out of reach. Your heart pounds with excitement when they finally give you attention, like a drug hit. You feel bored by men who are consistently available and kind. You mistake anxiety for chemistry, chaos for passion. When someone loves you freely, you feel confused and frustrated with yourself for sabotaging something you actually want. You feel scared of unfamiliar territory and unworthy of real love, so you destroy it before it can destroy you. You feel like a fraud, waiting for them to discover the "real" you and leave.
6. You struggle with shame, perfectionism, and boundaries
You feel like damaged goods, fundamentally flawed and unworthy of real love. You feel like you have to hide parts of your story to be acceptable. You feel like you're walking a tightrope, one mistake away from losing everything. You feel exhausted from monitoring every word, every action, trying to control the entire relationship dynamic through flawless performance. You feel either completely walled off from everyone or completely merged with your partner's needs and emotions. You feel guilty for having your own wants and needs, responsible for everyone else's feelings while neglecting your own. You feel lost and don't know where you end and others begin.
‘‘Nafisa, am I broken? is something wrong with me? I want to change but I just can’t seem to do it.’’
‘‘No hun, what’s happening is the event was traumatic and so it left it’s effects behind. We have a bit of work to do but you can heal and have the thriving relationships you grave.’’
Your fears are valid
‘‘I hear you, sis!
‘‘You've been through so much, yet you still believe in love. That takes incredible courage, and you deserve to have that courage rewarded with the beautiful relationship you're meant to have."
But It’s time for change
It’s time for you to learn the skills no one ever taught you, about how to actually have healthy relationships. Not ones that you choose to decide ‘‘It’s my path to Jannah soI must bear the suffering’’ It’s time to change who you show up as so you can change your life. Are you ready?
LOVE AFTER TRAUMA
A transformative learning experience filled with impactful strategies designed to help you overcome self-doubt, eliminate toxic patterns, and stop self-sabotage. Enabling you to finally cultivate the deep, lasting love you’ve been longing for.
Introducing:
Love After Trauma is a comprehensive program designed specifically for women who are ready to break free from the cycle of unhealthy relationships and step into their power to create lasting love. You'll not only heal from your past but also learn how to do relationships successfully - building the skills for healthy communication, trust, and intimacy that create thriving partnerships. All this for an investment of £497.
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There Is a Path to Healing
You Don't Have to Stay Stuck
Your past doesn't have to define your future in love. With the right tools, support, and guidance, you can heal your relationship patterns and create the secure, loving partnership you deserve.
What You'll Experience in Love After Trauma
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Phase 1: Stop the Cycle That's Keeping You Stuck
"Why do I keep attracting the same type of person?" "Why does every relationship feel like I'm walking on eggshells?"
Month 1:
* Understand why your nervous system goes into overdrive and learn to recognize your triggers before they hijack your relationships.
* Recognize your triggers before they sabotage connections
* Understand why your body shuts down or explodes in difficult moments
* Have practical tools to calm your nervous system in real time
* Stop the reactive cycle that's been destroying your relationships
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Phase 2: Rebuild How You Connect
"I want to be close but I'm terrified of being hurt again." "I love them but I don't know how to trust."
Month 2:
* Learn to trust your own voice again and create real intimacy - not walls that keep everyone out, and not doormat behavior that lets people walk over you.
* Protect yourself while staying open to love
* Communicate without triggering fights or shutdowns
* Know exactly what to say in difficult conversations
* Rebuild trust and intimacy safely, at your own pace
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Phase 3: Create Love That Lasts
"I want a relationship that feels peaceful, not chaotic." "I'm ready to break these patterns for good."
Month 3:
* Create the kind of love that actually lasts - become free from the patterns that keep you stuck and learn to love and be loved in ways that feel safe and real.
* Handle difficult family dynamics without losing yourself
* Have a clear blueprint for what healthy love looks like for you
* Possess tools to repair relationships when things go wrong
* Feel confident that these changes will stick for life
I never thought I'd make it to this point without self-sabotaging like I did in all my previous relationships.
"Six months ago, I was convinced I was broken beyond repair. I'd been through three toxic relationships, constantly attracted to men who treated me like an option. Now I'm with someone who treats me like a priority, and we're preparing for him to meet my family for our formal engagement. I never thought I'd make it to this point without self-sabotaging like I did in all my previous relationships. Sister Nafisa helped me understand that my nervous system was hijacked by past trauma, and my hypervigilance wasn't a character flaw - it was a survival mechanism that had outlived its usefulness."
Sarah M. 34- Social Worker
I'm not saying our marriage is perfect now, but it's peaceful. We can disagree without me feeling like it means he's going to leave.
"I was turning every small disagreement with my husband into World War III, creating chaos whenever things felt peaceful. My husband said he felt like he was walking on eggshells around me. Sister Nafisa helped me understand I was bringing my childhood trauma into my marriage bed - my husband wasn't my father, but I was treating him like he was. We just celebrated our seventh wedding anniversary, and for the first time, I wasn't secretly wondering if we'd make it to the next one."
Zoha A. 29 - Teacher and Mother of Two
Live group sessions where we learn & work through real scenarios together
One private 1:1 call to troubleshoot your specific situation
Emergency toolkit for when you feel yourself slipping back into old patterns
Private community of people who truly understand your journey
£497 one time payment
or
3 instalments of £166 (monthly payment)
Bonus
what’s the investment?
Ready to stop repeating the same relationship patterns and start creating the love you actually want?
what’s included?
Still need time to think about it?
That’s understandable, email me any questions you may have regarding the program and I will clear things up for you before you begin.
www.nafisatuakilu@gmail.com
FAQs
WILL THE CLasses be live?
Yes all classes will be live and presented by sister Nafisa.
sessions recording will only be available for 72 hours for those who attend the live but everyone will receive brief recap emails highlighting key points after each session.
IS THIS PROGRAM REFUNDABLE?
All sales are final. Refunds are not available for this program. For more info, please read the Terms and Conditions during checkout.
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